This business of love
I hate the whole falling in love thing. I know, funny, right? I’m a romance writer and I hate falling in love. It’s not that I hate love, I hate all the issues that crop up when you’re in the process of falling. Will he call? Why isn’t he calling? Am I not pretty enough? Am I not thin enough? Did I shave my legs?
When you’re not falling in love, when you’re just going about your business on a day to day basis, issues like that are there, but not front and center like little devils in your ear. I mean, on a regular day, if you sent a friend a text, and they hadn’t responded to you in a couple of hours,you would think, like any rational person, that maybe they were busy, maybe at work,maybe in a hostage negotion…okay, maybe not that, but you get the picture. But when it’s the guy that you’re falling for, and he hasn’t responded back to your text (when the bastard said he would text you), then the world is over because he thinks you’re fat/ugly/stupid/socially awkward and you want to cry into a bowl of ice cream or a bag of kettle corn.
That’s the part I hate. Falling in love turns rational, confident people into total basket cases. If that return text doesn’t come in 15 minutes, your thought process still resembles something rational. At the half hour mark, you start to stress, you check to make sure you actually sent the text and a crease forms on your forehead because now you’re frowning. At the one hour mark, you may start to get pissed off, and you say things like “Whatever, didn’t want to talk to you anyway” when inside, you’re a mass of nerves. Did you piss him off? Say something offensive? Even when it’s something as simple as “Do you want to meet tonight?”
At the two hour mark…you’re postal. Thoughts range from “OMG he’s dead in a plane crash!” to “I knew I shouldn’t have posted those pictures on Facebook, he DOES think I’m ugly!!!”. You tell yourself that you don’t care what he thinks anyway, and if that’s how he wants to be, then you’re better off without him…knowing in the back of your mind that there is probably a very good reason as to why he hasn’t answered you yet and it’s not because he doesn’t like how you look in a hat.
IT’S INSANE PEOPLE! We should not put ourselves through this! There has got to be a better way to fall in love! Master the mind, calm the crazies, go about your normal business. If he answers, he answers. If he doesn’t , then it’s better to know at the beginning, right? He may just not be interested, and in that case, you’re better off moving on.
